Couples Coaching
Couples coaching or counselling is an invitation to meet anew as a couple - with openness, understanding and the desire to get closer to each other again.
Does this sound familiar?
Not everything is going well in your relationship - maybe you feel like you're going round in circles. Here are typical issues that couples come to counselling with:
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You are at the beginning of your relationship and want to create a stable basis for your future together.
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Everyday life is consuming you - between work, children and commitments, there is hardly any time left for you as a couple.
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Roles and expectations are unclear and repeatedly lead to tensions.
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You have different ideas about what your future should look like.
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Communication is difficult - misunderstandings pile up, conversations end in arguments or silence.
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It is difficult to talk about needs or feelings without feeling attacked or misunderstood.
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Conflicts are part of everyday life - you want more ease, but don't know how to achieve this.
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You have grown emotionally distant from each other - there is a lack of closeness, tenderness or genuine connection.
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“We're just functioning” - but the feeling of partnership is barely noticeable.
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A breach of trust has shaken you and you don't know whether or how you can find your way back to each other.
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You have doubts about the relationship and are increasingly asking yourself the question: stay or go?
A survey conducted by the opinion research institute Innofact on behalf of Parship (2010) shows that couples communicate for an average of 102 minutes per day - of which around 75 minutes are spent face-to-face and 29 minutes via modern communication channels. However, the longer a relationship lasts, the less people talk to each other. This is a clear sign of how much relationship maintenance can fade into the background - often without realizing it.
What are the benefits of couples counselling?
In counselling, we create a safe space in which you can be honest with each other - respectful, open and with a new perspective on each other.
Together, we look at what lies behind your patterns, conflicts or moments of distance. It's not about who is right, but how you can reconnect - with yourselves and with each other. Sometimes a change of perspective, an open conversation or the recognition of deeper needs can help you to find closeness, clarity and orientation again.
I hope that your love for each other can blossom again and that you learn to think in terms of mutual affection. I am convinced that this will change your relationship in the long term.
What if your partner doesn't want to come along (yet)?
Even if you are not (yet) going down this path together - you are very welcome at the counselling session. Sometimes a first step by one person is enough to set something in motion. Just like a mobile: if one part changes, the whole system moves.
What is couples counselling about?
Every relationship is different - and that's what it's all about: finding out what's on your mind and what you need. The following topics often take center stage:
1. communication at eye level
Would you like to talk to each other better again? I support you in really listening, expressing yourself more clearly and leaving old communication patterns behind you - so that real connection can be re-established.
2. Understanding and resolving conflicts
Conflicts don't have to divide. We look together: What is behind your conflicts? And how can you deal with it in a more constructive, respectful and honest way?
3. Strengthening trust and closeness
When hurt has happened, it takes time and space to find each other again. We work on rebuilding trust - and finding ways in which you can be emotionally and physically close again.
4 Really understanding the other person
What does your partner think, feel and need? New perspectives create understanding and compassion - and connection can grow again.
5. Growing together - or making decisions
Whether you want to work on your relationship preventively or are in a crisis: counselling helps you to shape your path more consciously - with more clarity and connection.
What's your next step?
